What if I am not feeling an instant connection?

What if I am not feeling an instant connection? Give him a chance, you could be missing out on an incredible guy. You know how the more you know someone they either get more or less attractive? Think of your girl friends, you think they are all beautiful but did you immediately? I’ll never tell! (But seriously, I hang with some foxy ladies). Let me tell you a story. Once upon a time a beautiful young lady was dating a nice young man. The man was bright and kind and thought he was very funny. He wasn’t very exciting and there weren’t a lot of sparks. In fact, she thought he was a little boring, and not funny at all. But the young lady did not have any other suitors so she allowed the courtship to continue. One day, they went on a trip together with friends. On that trip she suddenly realized that without even knowing it she had fallen head over heels with her boring suitor. In fact, she now found him funny and charming and his quirks endearing. They were married for more than 50 years until he passed away and she still refers to him as the love of her life and best friend. My bff, T always says, “remember, if you marry a hot guy now that you can’t talk to and isn’t nice to you what do you have in 30 years? An old man who you can’t talk to and still isn’t nice to you. But if you marry a decent man who’s less than attractive, well he will still be a decent man when you’re old. And still interesting. What if I am still not feeling a connection Unfortunately, not everyone is someone you will be attracted to. It is very sad when you should, on paper, be perfect for each other but it just won’t work. But there is probably a reason you just haven’t figured out yet why he is not right for you. Remember, trust your instincts but often your learned behavior will lead you astray. Refer back to “He’s Just not that Into You.” Beware “the spark!” It is dangerous and can lead you astray!