How long should I make him wait?

How long should I make him wait?
I realize that this is open for debate, depending on you particular morals and/or religious beliefs. According to Steve Harvey in “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” You should make him wait at least 90 days. I definitely recommend his book. His reasoning is that when he worked for Ford, they made him wait 90 days for benefits. Many jobs have a three month waiting period before you receive benefits because you need to prove you a good employee. You need to prove that you are trust worthy and you need to earn benefits. How much more important then, to make a man prove himself before receiving “benefits?”
There is a tendency in our culture to rush into physical intimacy. Women are trying so hard to be independent and more “progressive,” that they rush into physical intimacy. Ariel Levy discusses this in her book, “Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture.” Men are not going to respect you if you do not respect yourself and your body. If you rush into a physical relationship men will often disqualify you for a long term relationship.
Now personally, I am not sexually active due to my moral standards and religious beliefs. This is more common than Hollywood would have you believe. I do realize it may be a tougher policy than you are willing to enact. If so, please at least consider the 90 day rule. To paraphrase Sarah Chalke as Dr. Stella Zimmerman in her guest starring role on “How I Met Your Mother,” “Look, Ted, guys regret the girls they didn't sleep with. Girls regret the guys they do sleep with.” Aside from worries about STD’s and pregnancy there are emotional issues as well. When you share something so intimate with someone, a loss of your relationship is going to be even harder.
But we love each other
I am not going to dictate to you what your morals should be. Everyone needs to follow their own path. I have heard the argument that physical intimacy is important because it bonds you closer together. That is very true, and another reason I choose to wait. Physical intimacy can cause a relationship to feel like love when it really isn’t. It also can stop you from connecting on the deeper emotional and mental levels than you should. That physical intimacy can change the focus of your relationship from “getting to know each other” to suddenly being deeply in love. That can cause for unstable bedrock for your relationship.